Pleasure Meets Wellbeing: How to Incorporate Sensual Items into Everyday Self-Care

The Glow-Up Your Self-Care Routine Has Been Waiting For

Let’s be honest—self-care isn’t just about slapping on a face mask and sipping chamomile tea while staring into the void. Sure, that’s cute. But true self-care is anything that makes you feel deliciously alive from the inside out. And yes, that includes the kind of pleasure that makes your toes curl and your stress evaporate.

So, what happens when you mix sensuality with wellness? You get a routine that feels more like a love affair—with yourself. Here’s how to turn your daily rituals into moments you actually look forward to (and yes, we’ve got just the toys and treats to help).

Why Pleasure Belongs in Your Wellness Plan

Think of pleasure as a vitamin for your mood. When you indulge in a little solo (or shared) sensuality, your brain releases feel-good chemicals—dopamine, oxytocin, endorphins—that:

• Melt away stress

• Boost your confidence

• Improve your sleep

• Remind you that your body is a damn delight

We’ve been told for too long that pleasure is a “guilty” indulgence. At That’s The Spot, we’re throwing that idea out faster than last season’s knickers.

Pleasure isn’t guilty—it’s grounding.

Everyday Moments to Invite Sensuality In

Morning Mindset: Start Spicy, Not Sleepy

Before you even grab your coffee, slip into silky lingerie under your everyday clothes. It’s like wearing a secret you can’t stop smiling about. Make time for a morning self-pleasure session and watch as you coast through the day with main character energy.

PS: For another morning treat, try our Papermoon body butter - so lush.

Midday Reset: Pleasure in Your Lunch Break

Stress at work? Step away from your inbox. Take a five-minute breathing break, roll a tension-busting massage ball over your shoulders, or (if you’re feeling cheeky) sneak in a little discreet buzz from a pocket-sized vibe.

A travel sized vibe is basically a stress ball… just better.

Night time Wind-Down: Bedtime, but Better

Swap doomscrolling for a warm bath with a massage candle flickering nearby. Let the melted wax double as a silky massage oil, and pair it with your favourite toy for the ultimate sleep prep.

Pro tip: pop a Lula Self-Warming Eye Mask on right before bed. Sweet dreams cutie pie. 

How to Choose the Right Sensual Items for You

• Comfort is Queen – Smooth, body-safe materials only.

• Match Your Mood – From soft and romantic to bold and buzzy, go with what excites you.

• Try, Test, Tweak – Your preferences can change—think of it as your sensual style evolving.

Not sure where to start? Our How to Choose Your First Vibrator Without Freaking Out guide is basically your sex-ed BFF.

Creating a Sensory Self-Care Ritual

For a truly chef’s kiss moment, engage all your senses:

• Touch: Smooth silicone, warm oil, or the velvet of a robe

• Scent: A candle, body butter or essential oil that makes you feel luxe

• Sound: A playlist that makes you sway in the kitchen

• Taste: Dark chocolate, champagne, or whatever makes you feel decadent

Your “pleasure drawer” should sit right next to your skincare and candles—equal priority.

Busting the ‘Guilty Pleasure’ Myth

Here’s the tea: pleasure improves your mental health, deepens body confidence, and helps you sleep better. You wouldn’t feel guilty about eating veggies or getting a massage, so why feel guilty about something that does all that and more?

We say ditch the guilt, keep the glow.

Your Pleasure = Your Power

The best self-care routine is one you actually want to stick to—and sensuality makes it irresistible. Whether you’re gifting yourself or sharing the moment with someone else, remember: this is about joy, not justification.

Ready to add a little extra sparkle to your wellness routine? Explore our self-love gift packs and find your new favourite ritual.