Why Pleasure Is a Self-Care Practice (Not a Guilty Secret)

When most people think of self-care, they picture bubble baths, skincare rituals, long walks, or a weekend digital detox. But there’s one form of self-care many still hesitate to acknowledge out loud: pleasure.

Whether it’s a moment of solo bliss, an intimate connection with your partner, or simply exploring what makes your body feel good, pleasure is a deeply valid, empowering, and wellness-supporting practice. At That’s The Spot, we’re all about removing the shame and adding the joy back into taking care of yourself.

Let’s break down why pleasure deserves a well-earned spot in your self-care routine — and why it should never come with guilt attached.

1. Pleasure Reduces Stress (Science Says So)

When you experience pleasure, your body releases a cocktail of feel-good chemicals — dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins. These aren’t just “happy hormones”; they actively lower cortisol levels, relax your nervous system, and help you unwind.

In other words:
Pleasure is nature’s built-in stress reliever.
And unlike a wine top-up or doom-scrolling session, it’s actually good for you.

Whether you’re using one of our cheeky Pleasure Pals or a simple touch-and-breathe ritual, giving yourself permission to feel good can shift your entire mood and help you reconnect with your body.

2. Pleasure Helps You Reconnect With Your Body

Modern life can leave you feeling disconnected — from your needs, your senses, your boundaries, and even your own body. Pleasure brings you back home.

Exploring what feels good is a grounding, body-neutral practice, helping you:

• Tune into physical sensations

• Understand your desires and limits

• Build healthy body awareness

• Feel more confident in and about your skin

This self-connection is at the heart of all great self-care.

3. It Supports Better Sleep, Mood, and Overall Wellbeing

Pleasure is linked to:

• Improved sleep quality

• Reduction in menstrual cramps

• Boosted immune function

• Lower anxiety

• Emotional regulation

• Better mood (hello, glow)

If a face mask or herbal tea offered even half these benefits, we’d call it a wellness essential. So why doesn’t pleasure get the same hype? Spoiler: it should.

4. Pleasure Isn’t About Shame — It’s About Autonomy

For generations, pleasure (especially women’s pleasure) was wrapped in taboos. We were taught to be discreet, embarrassed, or quiet about it.

But here’s the truth:
Pleasure is personal, normal, and nothing to apologise for.

Choosing to prioritise your own joy is an act of self-trust. It’s a moment where you put yourself first — not for anyone else, but because you deserve to feel good for no reason other than it’s your body and your life.

5. Making Pleasure Part of Your Self-Care Routine Is Simple

You don’t need an elaborate setup or a two-hour ritual. Pleasure can be:

• A five-minute moment of mindfulness with touch

• A slow Sunday with your favourite vibe or toy

• Exploring a new sensation (temperature, texture, vibration)

• Using tools like our Pleasure Pals, designed to be cute and seriously good at what they do

• Reclaiming a moment of calm — just for you

The key is giving yourself permission without guilt.

6. Pleasure Is About Joy — and Joy Is Good for You

Self-care isn’t just about fixing what's broken; it’s also about nurturing what feels good. Pleasure brings play, humour, relaxation, curiosity, and connection into your week.

And when it comes wrapped in a colourful, friendly, stigma-free package — we call that a win.

Final Thought: You Deserve to Feel Good (Without Apology)

At That’s The Spot, we're rewriting the narrative around sexual wellness. Pleasure is not taboo. It’s not indulgent. And it’s definitely not something you owe anyone an explanation for.

It’s self-care.
It’s nourishing.
It’s allowed.
And it’s yours.

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