How to Choose Your First Vibrator (Without Freaking Out)

So, you’re ready to buy your first vibrator?
Breathe. Stretch. Shake it out. You’ve already done the hardest part: deciding to try something new.

But the options? The buzzwords? The shapes? It can all feel like trying to order from a menu in another language.

Good news: we’ve made it simple. Here’s your no-pressure, no-jargon, judgment-free guide to choosing your first vibrator—based on how you want to feel.

Step One: What Vibe Do You Want From Your Vibe?

You don’t need to know everything about toys to pick a good one. Start with this question:

What kind of sensation are you curious about?

• External (clitoral) – Great for first-timers. No penetration needed, just surface-level stimulation.

• Internal (vaginal) – For G-spot exploration and a fuller, deeper feeling.

• Dual (both) – AKA “rabbit-style” vibes or double-sided products that give you inside and outside vibes at once.

If you’re unsure? Start with external. It’s the most versatile and beginner-friendly.

Step Two: Go Soft, Quiet & Easy to Use

You're not entering a battle. You want something that's:

• Non-intimidating in shape

• Quiet enough for privacy

• Rechargeable (trust us, batteries are a buzzkill)

• Waterproof or water-resistant so cleanup is a breeze

That's The Spot Pleasure Pals We Recommend for First-Timers

Let’s match you with your perfect intro-to-pleasure Pleasure Pal sex toy.

Madame Mango – Cute, soft, and unintimidating

• External only

• Rounded shape = comfy to hold

• Quiet enough to use with housemates around

Dos Amigos – Beginner’s best friend

• Dual stimulation (but super gentle)

• Great if you're curious about more sensation

• Soft silicone and simple controls

Bestie – Discreet but powerful

• Ultra-quiet and travel-ready

• Slim shape

• Feels luxe without being flashy

→ Compare all our beginner vibes here

First-Timer FAQs (That You’re Totally Allowed to Ask)

Q: Will it be too strong for me?
A: No! Start on the lowest setting. You’re in control—ease in, explore, and turn up the volume if and when it feels right.

Q: Can I fly with it?
A: Yes. Vibrators are allowed in your carry-on. Just make sure it’s switched off and always check the local laws of the destination you're travelling to. Learn more about flying with sex toys here.

Q: Will it be awkward to buy?
A: Not here. All our orders ship in plain packaging with a neutral name on the label—no one will know what’s inside. This is just for you, babe!

Final Vibe Check

Choosing your first vibrator doesn’t need to be a big deal. You don’t have to be a sex toy expert. You just have to be curious and willing to try something made for your pleasure.

No shame. No pressure. Just vibes.

Ready to find your Pleasure Pal?
→ Explore our beginner-friendly products here