Vibrator Gifting Etiquette: What’s Sexy, What’s Sketchy

So, you’re thinking about giving someone a vibrator. Love the energy.

But before you wrap up that buzzy little beauty and slap on a bow, let’s talk gifting etiquette—because there’s a fine line between “wow, you really get me” and “um… what the F?”

Welcome to the cheeky guide to vibrator gifting: what’s sexy, what’s sketchy, and how to be a thoughtful pleasure fairy (not a vibe-villain).

When a Vibrator Gift is Totally Sexy

1. You Know Each Other’s Vibe (Pun Intended)

If you’re gifting to a partner, bestie, or anyone you’ve openly talked sex with, a vibrator can be a fun, empowering gift. You’re celebrating their pleasure—not making it awkward.

Sexy example:
You and your BFF have talked about your vibrator collections over wine more than once.
→ Gifting her a sleek new toy? Cute and thoughtful.

Sexy example:
Your partner comes home from a night with the girls. She tells you everyone was spilling tea on their favourite sex toys, then she laments that she doesn't own any, but feels it's something she would like to try.
→ Gifting her a beginner-friendly external vibrator that she can use to explore this part of her sexuality. Umm, such an empowering gift!

2. The Setting Is Right

Bachelorette party? Intimate birthday bash? Cheeky Galentine’s? These are prime occasions for vibe gifting. Especially if the vibe (pun still intended) is fun, flirty, and open.

Sexy example:
You’re part of a Hens Party with the theme “naughty or nice”. You and the other bridesmaids surprise the bride-to-be with something naughty and nice.
→ A gift-wrapped Duke? Iconic behaviour.

3. It’s Personal (In a Good Way)

Gifting someone a vibe that suits them shows you’re thoughtful and you listen. Maybe they’ve mentioned struggling to relax or wanting to try something new. You listened. You delivered.

Sexy example:
Your partner’s been curious about clitoris suction toys.
→ A pocket-sized Lil Bud = major brownie points.

When It’s Kinda Sketchy

1. You Haven’t Talked About Sex. At All.

Surprise sex toy gifts in a new relationship or to a colleague? Eek. Even if your intentions are good, it can feel intrusive or weirdly presumptive.

Sketchy example:
You gift a vibrator to a coworker at Secret Santa.
→ HR would like a word.

2. The Gift Feels More About You Than Them

A vibe that aligns with your kinks or desires, not theirs, can be a little… self-serving. Unless you’ve had mutual conversations about it, tread lightly.

Sketchy example:
“You’ll love this strap-on I got you… for us.”
→ Sweetheart, read the room.

3. The Toy Is Intimidating AF

If you’re gifting someone their first vibe, maybe don’t go full megawatt-watt suction-pulse-tech beast. It’s like giving someone who’s never driven a car the keys to a Formula One speed machine.

Sketchy example:
An ultra-luxe, multi-motor, app-controlled alien tentacle toy.
→ Maybe save that for level 10.

Gifting Tips from the Pleasure Pros 

• Stick to beginner-friendly options – sleek, soft, and unintimidating is key

• Opt for elegant packaging – because a good unboxing is half the fun

• Add lube or sweets– make it feel like a self-care moment

• Include a note – keep it cheeky, sweet, or spicy depending on the vibe

• Buy from a body-safe, female-founded store – like That’s The Spot, hi hello 👋

Gifting That Feels Good for Everyone

Giving a vibrator can be sexy, empowering, and confidence-boosting—when it’s done with thought and consent. So, before you hit “add to cart,” ask yourself:

Is this a gift that says, “I see you and support your pleasure”?
If yes—go forth and wrap that vibe with pride.

Shop Vibe-Worthy Gifts:
→ Explore gift-ready toys at That’s The Spot