When Is It Okay To Gift A Vibrator?

Gifting a vibrator can be totally okay, and it may even have the potential to be the best gift someone has ever received.

BUT - this doesn't mean you should gift any old sex toy to anybody.

Vibrators and other adult toy gifts land well when a few simple steps are taken to ensure the recipient's overall experience and suitability to the gift are considered.

The okayness of gifting a vibrator ultimately comes down to your relationship with the recipient, their comfort level, and the context.

If you're not sure if you should be gifting a vibe or not, here are some guidelines to help you decide:

When It Is Appropriate to Gift A Vibrator:

• Close/intimate relationship: You're gifting it to a partner or very close friend who you know would be receptive.

• Previous discussions: You've talked openly about sexuality or sex toys before, and they’ve expressed interest, or perhaps you know they already own similar style products.

• Humorous or themed settings: For a bachelorette party, adult-themed gift exchange, or for a white elephant among a group that’s comfortable with edgy humour.

• Consent & personalisation: You know the recipient's preferences, and you're being thoughtful rather than shocking. The gift is intended with good intentions and never with embarrassment or shame.

When It Might Be Inappropriate to Gift A Vibrator:

• Professional or casual relationships: Giving a vibe to a coworker often needs consideration (and if you are doing this, think about sending the gift to their home). Surprising an acquaintance, or someone you don't know very well, can come off as invasive or intimidating.

• No prior context: If sex or sexuality hasn’t come up in conversation, it could feel abrupt or disrespectful.

• Cultural or personal boundaries: Some people may have religious, cultural, or personal values that make a gift like that uncomfortable or offensive.

Tips If You Do Decide To Gift A Vibrator:

• Choose something classy and discreet—something that is easy to hold, look at and doesn't feel threatening. Tasteful packaging and discreet delivery can also help ensure your gift is well received.

• Include a note or card that maintains a light, respectful, or fun tone. Sending a card with a personalised message helps to contextualise the vibrator - it also ensures the recipient knows who has spoilt them!

• Make sure it’s new and sealed - obviously. Shop products that include a sanitary seal for additional comfort and peace of mind.

Think you might be ready to gift a vibrator? Take the That's The Spot gift quiz to find the perfect pleasure gift pack.